Want a baby (my brother has two)

Hi, i am a male 38 years, happily married from last 12 years.
We have only one problem that there we cant have children due to my medical problem.
I dont like adoption and my wife never say about it becsuae she knows i am very worried in this.
My younger brother had his third child last week (first one is 5 second one is 2 years old)
I was thinking to ask him to give the child to me, to raise him as my own son. but my wife rejected teh idea. I can never adopt a child from somebody else, but if its my brothers then we can give it same love and its our own blood too.
Also i dont know how will my brother and wife take this idea. WIll it affect our family ties that also worries me. Shall i go forward with this?

[jk_singh]

Originally Posted by Unregistered

Hi, i am a male 38 years, happily married from last 12 years.
We have only one problem that there we cant have children due to my medical problem.
I dont like adoption and my wife never say about it becsuae she knows i am very worried in this.
My younger brother had his third child last week (first one is 5 second one is 2 years old)
I was thinking to ask him to give the child to me, to raise him as my own son. but my wife rejected teh idea. I can never adopt a child from somebody else, but if its my brothers then we can give it same love and its our own blood too.
Also i dont know how will my brother and wife take this idea. WIll it affect our family ties that also worries me. Shall i go forward with this?

I dont think they will agree to this proposal!!!
Suppose ur brother ask u to give ur son, would u do it?????
SOunds very impractical to me!!!
You must check for some treatment or should go for regular adoption!!!

[manmohanjoshi]

Originally Posted by Unregistered

Hi, i am a male 38 years, happily married from last 12 years.
We have only one problem that there we cant have children due to my medical problem.
I dont like adoption and my wife never say about it becsuae she knows i am very worried in this.
My younger brother had his third child last week (first one is 5 second one is 2 years old)
I was thinking to ask him to give the child to me, to raise him as my own son. but my wife rejected teh idea. I can never adopt a child from somebody else, but if its my brothers then we can give it same love and its our own blood too.
Also i dont know how will my brother and wife take this idea. WIll it affect our family ties that also worries me. Shall i go forward with this?

IF they have two already and they went for the third, i believe its safe to assume they really wanted another baby.. will they be ready to give it to u or not thats very difficutl to predict.
I can see only very few chances. and as u said urself this can affect ur family ties too.. suppose u request and they deny it, both of u will be having a hard time. Its difficult for most people to even accept the idea

[blgdbnr]

Hey bro, sorry to hear of your situation... But trust me, by this date, there is no problem which cannot be cured in the genital parts... My cousin is a gyanecologist, and she tells me that all the problems can be easily cured... It may cost you time or patience, but will surely be able to get a child....

Other option can be going for a test tube baby or something like that...

Most important, pray to god... It really works wonders... I was born after 8 yrs of my parents' marriage, after many miscarriages of my mom, and they never let loose of hope... and jus 4 years after me, they gave me a brother... it was all patience, prayer and devotion that worked...

take care... All the best...

[siddharth3.5]

Originally Posted by Unregistered

Hi, i am a male 38 years, happily married from last 12 years.
We have only one problem that there we cant have children due to my medical problem.
I dont like adoption and my wife never say about it becsuae she knows i am very worried in this.
My younger brother had his third child last week (first one is 5 second one is 2 years old)
I was thinking to ask him to give the child to me, to raise him as my own son. but my wife rejected teh idea. I can never adopt a child from somebody else, but if its my brothers then we can give it same love and its our own blood too.
Also i dont know how will my brother and wife take this idea. WIll it affect our family ties that also worries me. Shall i go forward with this?

This is not such a good idea.. but if u think u can manage it u can try.
Atleast its ur own brother, he can understand what u feel.. just be ready to face a bad news. If he refuses dont feel bad..

[canadian31]

Originally Posted by Unregistered

Hi, i am a male 38 years, happily married from last 12 years.
We have only one problem that there we cant have children due to my medical problem.
I dont like adoption and my wife never say about it becsuae she knows i am very worried in this.
My younger brother had his third child last week (first one is 5 second one is 2 years old)
I was thinking to ask him to give the child to me, to raise him as my own son. but my wife rejected teh idea. I can never adopt a child from somebody else, but if its my brothers then we can give it same love and its our own blood too.
Also i dont know how will my brother and wife take this idea. WIll it affect our family ties that also worries me. Shall i go forward with this?

Let me tell you, it takes a big heart for someone to give up their own child, even if it is to their own family member.

However, it is not impossible and many people have done it and do it every day. I am speaking from personal experience. I have seen such a child grow up and being raised by her adoptive parents.

One of my dad's best friend and his wife couldn't have children. When the guy's brother and wife got married, this couple asked if they could adopt their first-born. And when the couple were expecting their first child, they had the adoption papers ready for these two even before her birth and today she is 18 years old and considers her adoptive parents as her own..! Also note that when she was 13 yrs old, her adoptive parents informed her of her true identity ... she said she loves them and only wants to live with them becuz they raised her as their own. For her, the birth parents don't mean much since she lived with this couple since she was 2 weeks old ...!

I still remember that nite ... she cried a lot and said she doesn't want to live with her biological parents cuz they are her "aunty and uncle" not "mom and dad" ...!!!

There is nothing wrong with adoption. If you can't have one of your own, adopt.! Whether it is from a family member or not should not have to make any difference.

[Midnight Valentine]

Originally Posted by canadian31

One of my dad's best friend and his wife couldn't have children. When the guy's brother and wife got married, this couple asked if they could adopt their first-born. And when the couple were expecting their first child, they had the adoption papers ready for these two even before her birth and today she is 18 years old and considers her adoptive parents as her own..! Also note that when she was 13 yrs old, her adoptive parents informed her of her true identity ... she said she loves them and only wants to live with them becuz they raised her as their own. For her, the birth parents don't mean much since she lived with this couple since she was 2 weeks old ...!

I still remember that nite ... she cried a lot and said she doesn't want to live with her biological parents cuz they are her "aunty and uncle" not "mom and dad" ...!!!

touching incident

[loojarsingh]

what a loojarrrr - doejntt LIKE adopshunn
sadddddd
what a loojar state our country ijj in?! :O

[TarangMehta]

Originally Posted by Unregistered

Hi, i am a male 38 years, happily married from last 12 years.
We have only one problem that there we cant have children due to my medical problem.
I dont like adoption and my wife never say about it becsuae she knows i am very worried in this.
My younger brother had his third child last week (first one is 5 second one is 2 years old)
I was thinking to ask him to give the child to me, to raise him as my own son. but my wife rejected teh idea. I can never adopt a child from somebody else, but if its my brothers then we can give it same love and its our own blood too.
Also i dont know how will my brother and wife take this idea. WIll it affect our family ties that also worries me. Shall i go forward with this?

This is not such a good idea, because hardly anybody will be ready to part with their child. But may be he might do out of sympathy. He already knows about your situation too. Under any circumstances dont push it, express your wish and if he says no, then leave it. Trying again and again will make things go very bad only

[pain!]

THis can turn unpleasant if you ask and he is reluctant. I think your wife is wise here. Adoption is not a bad idea. Think about it, your brothers baby has his dad and mom to take care of him. WHile there are thousands of babies who have nobody to look after them. So by adopting one, you are giving life to that child too!

[number1]

He wont be angry.......dont be worried about that!!!! At the maximum he will feel the request strange.... More than him, his wife will oppose... worth trying anyway!!!!

[ganesh111]

Originally Posted by Unregistered

Hi, i am a male 38 years, happily married from last 12 years.
We have only one problem that there we cant have children due to my medical problem.
I dont like adoption and my wife never say about it becsuae she knows i am very worried in this.
My younger brother had his third child last week (first one is 5 second one is 2 years old)
I was thinking to ask him to give the child to me, to raise him as my own son. but my wife rejected teh idea. I can never adopt a child from somebody else, but if its my brothers then we can give it same love and its our own blood too.
Also i dont know how will my brother and wife take this idea. WIll it affect our family ties that also worries me. Shall i go forward with this?

better would be to keep ur family life separeate from ur brothers.. this idea can have many drawbacks which can affect ur families even in future.
If he agrees for the child to be raised by you, then also its like having a constant worry with u. Love and emotions can show up at unexpected times and can have unpleasant results.

[Preeto Maam]

Yes, I believe that there is no harm in asking at all. Why should it spoil your relationship with your brother? However, if your wife does not want the child, then of course, you cant take a unilateral decision on this! Its a delicate situation and everyone will have to agree and be in sync with each other on this!

[narayanhegde]

Originally Posted by Unregistered

Hi, i am a male 38 years, happily married from last 12 years.
We have only one problem that there we cant have children due to my medical problem.
I dont like adoption and my wife never say about it becsuae she knows i am very worried in this.
My younger brother had his third child last week (first one is 5 second one is 2 years old)
I was thinking to ask him to give the child to me, to raise him as my own son. but my wife rejected teh idea. I can never adopt a child from somebody else, but if its my brothers then we can give it same love and its our own blood too.
Also i dont know how will my brother and wife take this idea. WIll it affect our family ties that also worries me. Shall i go forward with this?

Asking is not bad choice.. the maximum that can happen is he and his wife will reject your request.
But if u are already prepared to face that situation, u can sure try. And u will have to first make ur wife to agree to it. She is opposing fearing it will affect family links, and i think she will agree in time

[jugnii]

try it out na dil ki baat dil me mat rakho at least share it with your brother , and he is your brother will definitely understand you.
why would he mind He is your brother, much better to get sm 1 ur own rather for going outside.
Ask Him Soon, Dont delay this matter, they can give their baby now but later on situation become more complicated for them as their attachment with baby