Wife chooses porn over me

04-11-2009, 02:58 PM

Hi i am married and 29 my wife is 24. I found too much porn clips on my wife's computer.
During early marriage days its me who first introuduced porn to her. We used to watch it together. But now its become bad for me, she prefer to watch porn and not much interested in sex. I don't know what shoud i do to get back my happy marriage

**Preeto Maam** · 04-11-2009, 03:36 PM

Hi Gajan,

Well, I guess you'll have to do some work on your sex life, won't you? If your wife is more interested in the porn rather than the 'real thing' then its time for you to swing into action and make sure that the real thing is as exciting for her.

By that I don't mean that you imitate the crazy stuff that they do in the porn films, but do try and make sex more passionate and exciting for each other. Do discuss your issues and plans with her before you set out on this path so that she is in sync with you.

prakash27 · 04-11-2009, 04:09 PM

YOu did a big mistake!! Should have never drawn her to this porno stuff!! Anyways now only thing to do is to tell her to delete and remove all the porno stuff from ur home!! Clean up ur comp and her comp too!! And try to be away from it!!
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ganesh111 · 04-11-2009, 04:59 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Gajan

Hi i am married and 29 my wife is 24. I found too much porn clips on my wife's computer.
During early marriage days its me who first introuduced porn to her. We used to watch it together. But now its become bad for me, she prefer to watch porn and not much interested in sex. I don't know what shoud i do to get back my happy marriage

Now she is itnersted in porn movies.. thats ur fault. So u can fix this only by getting her interest back in u. Make her to be attracted to regular sex and that can be done only by some homework to make it feel new with new tricks

pain! · 04-11-2009, 05:25 PM

Let me tell you that it occured partly due to your own negligence. Married couple may be seeing porn movies together, but to let it gain primary importance in ur physical relationship should be avoided. Now, you need to bring her back into your own charm circle, if you really need these movies for your complete satisfaction may be you can use them later, but for the time being they must be avoided. The center of attention should be you for her, and vice versa; not the pornography. As you might have expected, all arguments must be avoided, it must be conveyed to her in a nice manner. When you present it, make it look like a requirement for the welfare of your family than letting her feel as its your wish being forced upon her. If its serious addcition you might need to consult a professional, but i believe this can be worked out betwen you two, if you are sincere in your efforts and really care for the welfare for your future life.

sb_fan2 · 04-11-2009, 05:31 PM

Dear there is nothing wrong with watching porn. THe whole world does that.

About sex - she not she - find someone else.

You are married - your life is already finished, what will happen - wife will fight - she will anyways fight - not for this reason then any other.

Enjoy your life one way or the other.

manmohanjoshi · 04-11-2009, 06:29 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Preeto Maam

Hi Gajan,

Well, I guess you'll have to do some work on your sex life, won't you? If your wife is more interested in the porn rather than the 'real thing' then its time for you to swing into action and make sure that the real thing is as exciting for her.

By that I don't mean that you imitate the crazy stuff that they do in the porn films, but do try and make sex more passionate and exciting for each other. Do discuss your issues and plans with her before you set out on this path so that she is in sync with you.

WHy did wife choose porn over u?? obviously it gave her more fun than ur sexl life
You can still control this.. just introduce stuffs like sex-games, fantasies or anything like that into ur normal sex to make it exciting. Regain her lost interest. When u can give the fun more thanthe movies, naturally she will discard the movies. Please check first if ur sexual life is boring, and do things to correct it

siddharth3.5 · 04-11-2009, 09:25 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Gajan

Hi i am married and 29 my wife is 24. I found too much porn clips on my wife's computer.
During early marriage days its me who first introuduced porn to her. We used to watch it together. But now its become bad for me, she prefer to watch porn and not much interested in sex. I don't know what shoud i do to get back my happy marriage

dear gajan.. this solution to ur problem include change in u. U must make necessary adjustments to bring back the shine in ur marriage.. in ur love for wife.
porn is only a medium.. the real reason is that she is distancing from u..
U must take it seriously, because somewhere ur mistakes are also causes for this situation

death.wish18 · 04-11-2009, 09:51 PM

hahaha..........lolx....

u must hav heard " APNI KARNI KHUD BHARNI "

ur wife finds porn 2 be more interesting than u....u need 2 get interestin nd more interactive during th foreplay....
in other words u need 2 compete th porn....

so best of luck...try hard...

tak care

atiqsyedpk · 04-11-2009, 10:37 PM

thats not a good sign

Eshwar Dutt · 04-11-2009, 10:48 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Gajan

Hi i am married and 29 my wife is 24. I found too much porn clips on my wife's computer.
During early marriage days its me who first introuduced porn to her. We used to watch it together. But now its become bad for me, she prefer to watch porn and not much interested in sex. I don't know what shoud i do to get back my happy marriage

Get rid of the porn clips or CDs u have for once and ever.. take a pledge together that both of u wont see it from now one
And most importantly spend more time together, its mainly because of decreasing love between u two

rangnath · 05-11-2009, 01:26 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Gajan

Hi i am married and 29 my wife is 24. I found too much porn clips on my wife's computer.
During early marriage days its me who first introuduced porn to her. We used to watch it together. But now its become bad for me, she prefer to watch porn and not much interested in sex. I don't know what shoud i do to get back my happy marriage

Think about ways to make time u spend together as interesting as possible.. its just like somebody getting influenced by something. You can bring her back.
But for that u will have to do some work, think and find out what needs to be done.. where change is needed etc.

don99 · 05-11-2009, 01:49 AM

what should i say. it's interesting!
A advice to all of u don't watch porn with u r spouse.

narayanhegde · 05-11-2009, 06:13 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Preeto Maam

Hi Gajan,

Well, I guess you'll have to do some work on your sex life, won't you? If your wife is more interested in the porn rather than the 'real thing' then its time for you to swing into action and make sure that the real thing is as exciting for her.

By that I don't mean that you imitate the crazy stuff that they do in the porn films, but do try and make sex more passionate and exciting for each other. Do discuss your issues and plans with her before you set out on this path so that she is in sync with you.

very sensible and nice advice maam... and i also got the same to say.
Especially making their life interesting doesnt mean they have to imitate weird things shown in movies.. that will perhaps make things worse only. they must discuss to find out what each one wants and not.. and then implement it.

loojarsingh · 05-11-2009, 08:49 AM

hee haa! porn-adhikarrii now against porn
yahi hota ehh bhaiya! kyun kiya tha suru jabii
iss mukaam pe na lana chahte the??

:P
ab aapki memsahab ban gayi porn addict..aur aapka to KLPD ho gaya
hah :P

04-11-2009, 02:58 PM	#1
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04-11-2009, 03:36 PM	#2
Preeto Maam Moderator Lieutenant General Join Date: Jun 2006 Posts: 44,182 Rep Power: 34	Hi Gajan, Well, I guess you'll have to do some work on your sex life, won't you? If your wife is more interested in the porn rather than the 'real thing' then its time for you to swing into action and make sure that the real thing is as exciting for her. By that I don't mean that you imitate the crazy stuff that they do in the porn films, but do try and make sex more passionate and exciting for each other. Do discuss your issues and plans with her before you set out on this path so that she is in sync with you.

04-11-2009, 04:09 PM	#3
prakash27 SB Addict Join Date: Jun 2009 Posts: 562 Rep Power: 1	YOu did a big mistake!! Should have never drawn her to this porno stuff!! Anyways now only thing to do is to tell her to delete and remove all the porno stuff from ur home!! Clean up ur comp and her comp too!! And try to be away from it!! agony aunt, marriage advice, relationship help, online agony aunt, relationship advice

04-11-2009, 05:25 PM	#5
pain! common man Lieutenant Join Date: Apr 2009 Posts: 5,050 Rep Power: 3	Let me tell you that it occured partly due to your own negligence. Married couple may be seeing porn movies together, but to let it gain primary importance in ur physical relationship should be avoided. Now, you need to bring her back into your own charm circle, if you really need these movies for your complete satisfaction may be you can use them later, but for the time being they must be avoided. The center of attention should be you for her, and vice versa; not the pornography. As you might have expected, all arguments must be avoided, it must be conveyed to her in a nice manner. When you present it, make it look like a requirement for the welfare of your family than letting her feel as its your wish being forced upon her. If its serious addcition you might need to consult a professional, but i believe this can be worked out betwen you two, if you are sincere in your efforts and really care for the welfare for your future life.

04-11-2009, 05:31 PM	#6
sb_fan2 Young Gun Join Date: Sep 2009 Posts: 283 Rep Power: 1	Dear there is nothing wrong with watching porn. THe whole world does that. About sex - she not she - find someone else. You are married - your life is already finished, what will happen - wife will fight - she will anyways fight - not for this reason then any other. Enjoy your life one way or the other.

04-11-2009, 09:51 PM	#9
death.wish18 Young Gun Join Date: Feb 2009 Location: i'm lost...can i come wth u?? Posts: 355 Rep Power: 2	hahaha..........lolx.... u must hav heard " APNI KARNI KHUD BHARNI " ur wife finds porn 2 be more interesting than u....u need 2 get interestin nd more interactive during th foreplay.... in other words u need 2 compete th porn.... so best of luck...try hard... tak care

04-11-2009, 10:37 PM	#10
atiqsyedpk SB Guru Lieutenant Join Date: May 2007 Location: in.center.of.TALIBAN Posts: 5,080 Rep Power: 6	thats not a good sign

05-11-2009, 01:49 AM	#13
don99 SB Addict Join Date: Mar 2008 Posts: 962 Rep Power: 4	what should i say. it's interesting! A advice to all of u don't watch porn with u r spouse.

05-11-2009, 08:49 AM	#15
loojarsingh New Born Join Date: Oct 2009 Posts: 117 Rep Power: 1	hee haa! porn-adhikarrii now against porn yahi hota ehh bhaiya! kyun kiya tha suru jabii iss mukaam pe na lana chahte the?? :P ab aapki memsahab ban gayi porn addict..aur aapka to KLPD ho gaya hah :P