Wish bad for ex gf

Hey Preeto Ma'am!! I know u have a lot of people asking for your advice, so ill keep it short!
I was in a relationship with a girl for 6 (3 years as classmates and 3 years as a pair)years...We've been through the roughs(of both life and relationship) and held ourselves. After our under-graduation, her dad was jailed and I took up her responsibility..We are now in doing our Master's in foreign soil..So i took care of everything (financial and emotional)and we are now in a position where nothing can stop us from growing up career wise...Then we broke up(don't ask why..its a long and boring story)...but we are still in the same college now and i see her everyday...and now i have these weird feelings for her...I always wait(and sometimes hope) that everything is not right with her..i want things to go bad and make her realize that no would be able to take care of her as i did...whenever i hear that something good is happening to her, i feel depressed...its like i want to hear that she is in a bad spot and no one can help her but me...im over her...i dnt want to get back into that complicated relationship but this feeling always depresses me..i want to get over this too and just see her as i see any other girl around me..could you help me out please...this would help me focus better on myself and on my career....

[Preeto Maam]

Hi! Ya, that is a common reaction, though not a very nice ones in these situations. It all comes from a lack of forgiveness actually. the best would be if you allow her to really go away from you and thats possible if you truly forgive her.
Its not that hard if you try and you know, you will be the happier person for it!

[Angel Lucifer]

well i think the flip side of Love is Forgiveness....if u cannot forgive her....ask urself...Did u ever love her?,.....u will get the answer...wish her all good in her future


Regards

[it matters to me]

Hi

Mostly Longer in term of years we are in a relationship, the more time we take to get over and mourn over the loss...

Break-ups are difficult, and sometimes the emotions are so strong that it's hard to sort things out and get on with your daily life. Getting over a breakup is an final eventuality and occurs with everyone, however, it depends to person to person as to how they do it.Also, how one gets over a break up also depends on the type and depth of the relation.

For example, one might find it easier to get over a second or a third relation, but find it extremely difficult to get over the first relation they ever had.
What you are experiencing is normal as as you feel the other partner has moved on, where as the truth is that most probably even the other person is going through the same and making an effort to move on.

Getting over a relationship doesn't mean forgetting the relationship. One good tip for getting over a relationship is to retrospect the relationship. Though one should not mope over a relationship, taking out the pros and the cons of a relationship will only make you see your
relationship in a better and neutral light.

Try to connect with other people within your circle who have broken up with someone. If they are experienced and have got over their relationships, they can offer you ample of emotional support. If they too have recently got over a relationship, the two of you can share your everyday experiences.

Another way to get over a relationship is by making oneself busy. Individuals can make themselves busy in almost everything - their profession, a new hobby, or even keeping up their various social engagements.

One should also remember that one relationship is not the end of the world. Of course, things would not be the same after a relationship, and the wounds would take time to heal, but the individual should keep their mindsets open personally.

While dealing with a breakup, talking to someone really helps. It can be a close friend or a member of the extended family, but you need to let out the emotions raging inside you. Keeping your thoughts to yourself during or after a breakup will only dump you with emotional baggage and will only make it more difficult for you to go about with your life.

Another way of getting over a relationship is by changing your lifestyle or getting something excitement in your life. A new hairdo, a new hobby, or even a new job will work wonders for your quest to get over a relationship.

Again, the end of a relationship is not the end of the world. You should never stop meeting new people or dating simply because you have broken a relationship. Of course, this is termed as 'being on the rebound' makes people, especially women a bit of emotionally fragile. Therefore, be very careful before getting into a new relationship while still wearing off the previous one.

Do not hesitate to tell any new person you have met that you have just broken off a relationship and need some time to get your bearings together. If they really mean good for you, they'll bid their time.

[Midnight Valentine]

Originally Posted by Angel Lucifer

well i think the flip side of Love is Forgiveness....if u cannot forgive her....ask urself...Did u ever love her?,.....u will get the answer...wish her all good in her future


Regards

My opinion here differs from yours....i don't think forgiveness is the flip side of love.
If he cannot forgive her..that does not mean that he never loved her.
When someone is hurt..it's hard to look @ sensible things...so it's not his fault.

@ query
The Solution is that whatever you feel for her now...i.e something bad happening to her will not make you happy in any way dear...so you need to let go of this feeling...instead wish that something good happens to both of you ..this will provide peace of mind and happiness too.

[coreleone]

Thnx guys!
Your advice will help me in a long way!
Probably you guys would never know, but you've changed my life for good!!!
C ya!