Long distance relationship hassles

I am in a long-distance relationship with my boyfriend. It been 4 months since we have seen each other. I generally call him everyday and we talk to good amount. Sometimes we fight and one of us hangs-up, so the other one call. But sometimes When we have a fight my boyfriend never call back..so I fear that I will lose him and generally call him back, he does apologizes. Some times i try to stop calling him fro few days but i generally give in and end up call him .One of the things that really bothers me is the facts when he says he will call and never calls, he just says it did nt have enought money in his phone to make a long distace call.I call him everyday. Now he way away on a trip for 4 days and told me to call on the fifth day..should I call him bk immediately on 5th day or make him wait n realized my imporrtance..how long should i wait? It it normal that boyfriend calls less often? I really love him a lot and He say he loves me. I dont wanna break up with him so what should i do. Can someone help me on this topic.....

[Preeto Maam]

Well, looks like there is a certain amount of distancing happening in the relationship. I'm not going to comment on the commitment levels here, simply because I really don't know just how committed he is to you. Weather his love can sustain the strains of a long distance relationship or not. You are also feeling the strain I know, in another way.

My suggestion is to take it easy and to lower your expectations a little. The rules are not quite the same in a regular and a long distance relationship. You'll be happier if you reduce your dependence on the relationship.

[ahaana]

see...no matter how strong is ur bond is....but long distnce relationship is really an acid test in terms of relationship...u can stay with touch via ph and net...but still lack the personal touch...which is very important for relations to survive...

Now its upto u..that u give more importance to ur ego aor ur love...it may b possible that if u survive for 4 days...u can also survive for a month or more than that...without bieng in touch...

[death.wish18]

i thnk currently u shld wait on th 5th nd evn on th 6th day 4 him 2 call u back....if he dsnt den u also dnt call him in back bt send him a SMS expressing tht u r angry.....

itz nt lik tht guyz dnt call often....i'm in a long distance relationship nd i'm th 1 who endz up callin her evry time.....so itz baseless 2 say th guyz dnt call or galz dnt call.....

i would lik 2 end by tht if he dosnt reply or respond 2 u evn aftr th msg thn tak ths as a warning bell....

tak care

[sonig]

so mam u said u love him thn whts the problm if u love him thn also u dont understand his problem and either expecting too much as he is suffering some financial problem too and u knw tht this is the problem thts why he cant call u on tym as u wish him to b.and every person is busy in his lyf and there are many commitments sometyms and nobody can express his or her lov 24/7
i will jst say tht both of u love each other so understand the problems tht r attached to your lifes and sensibly solve thm this is the only solution.tk cr god bless u.

[a_decent_1]

Originally Posted by Unregistered

I am in a long-distance relationship with my boyfriend. It been 4 months since we have seen each other. I generally call him everyday and we talk to good amount. Sometimes we fight and one of us hangs-up, so the other one call. But sometimes When we have a fight my boyfriend never call back..so I fear that I will lose him and generally call him back, he does apologizes. Some times i try to stop calling him fro few days but i generally give in and end up call him .One of the things that really bothers me is the facts when he says he will call and never calls, he just says it did nt have enought money in his phone to make a long distace call.I call him everyday. Now he way away on a trip for 4 days and told me to call on the fifth day..should I call him bk immediately on 5th day or make him wait n realized my imporrtance..how long should i wait? It it normal that boyfriend calls less often? I really love him a lot and He say he loves me. I dont wanna break up with him so what should i do. Can someone help me on this topic.....

Buddy,

We need to know a Lot of things here..!! How long have you been together..!! Where do u live..? Where does he live..? And all that..!!

From the Info. provided, all i can say is that the BIGGEST Problem in a Long Distance Relationship is of "Faith" and "Fear to Lose you partner to someone else" ..!! That's the Crux.

What you need to do is, TRUST HIM. Since you've chosen him, you gotta believe he is the right kinda guy.. Guys can sometime be Careless with calling. They dont tend to realize how much it means to the Girls, but that is how it is.

Also, Remember, Never try to "Increase" your importance by doing what you have mentioned. What that would do is create further problems and bigger fights..!! there is no EGO in love.

Does not matter who says Sorry, as long as the problem is solved.

G'day

[Midnight Valentine]

Talk to him about it...tell him how you feel.
If he listens...cool..if he changes himself ..even better.

But ,if you seriously feel that your importance in his life has decreased...take it as an alarm.
Like suggested above..reduce your dependency on him.
Your love is valuable....never let anyone exploit it or take it for granted...if he doesn't understand your importance..move away..be strong...and wait for sometime...you will find your Prince who will Love you the way you want....and you'll live Happily ever after....

[lassy]

MAM is right u should lower ur expectations becoz boys often dnt call more.......relax urself & try to spend quality time not quantity time.....
wait for the right time & try to make him understand what ur expectations are i m sure he'll understand.plz dont be hurry
after sharing ur inner feelings with him dnt expect for a sudden change.be patient & understand his every situion try to listen him more dnt complaint every time wehnever u both talk.in short u can make him close to u if u'll try

[knocked out]

Originally Posted by Unregistered

I am in a long-distance relationship with my boyfriend. It been 4 months since we have seen each other. I generally call him everyday and we talk to good amount. Sometimes we fight and one of us hangs-up, so the other one call. But sometimes When we have a fight my boyfriend never call back..so I fear that I will lose him and generally call him back, he does apologizes. Some times i try to stop calling him fro few days but i generally give in and end up call him .One of the things that really bothers me is the facts when he says he will call and never calls, he just says it did nt have enought money in his phone to make a long distace call.I call him everyday. Now he way away on a trip for 4 days and told me to call on the fifth day..should I call him bk immediately on 5th day or make him wait n realized my imporrtance..how long should i wait? It it normal that boyfriend calls less often? I really love him a lot and He say he loves me. I dont wanna break up with him so what should i do. Can someone help me on this topic.....

well,

i know how it feels like bu atm moment, STf being just 50 paise a minute. calling for 15-20 minutes is never an issue.. and the way he trats u, either hes kind of ged up with u and has some1 in as a reserve or you press on certain things whicg you shouldnt.. learn to give him space.. and if he never calls u, then consider him as a goner.. try to look out where did u go wrong.. if u said or did anything tht really created a tiff. be seductive over the phone.. share ur fantasies.. have a webcam chat.. though dont resort to stripping.. spicen up ur life.. dont give him a feeling tht whenever he sees ur call he shud think, "aa gayi sir dardi".. sometimes girls just get too complaining

[sb_fan2]

You are calling him again and again - many reasons.

1. You want to spoil his life.
2. You cannot digest he is happy.
3. You dont trust him.
4. You dont want to give him any space.
5. You want him to be your slave.

My advice is - atleast in distant relationship - give him space, freedom and independence. He will call you when he can. Without trust distant relation - is not possible.

Stop imposing yourself.

[Midnight Valentine]

Originally Posted by sb_fan2

You are calling him again and again - many reasons.

1. You want to spoil his life.
2. You cannot digest he is happy.
3. You dont trust him.
4. You dont want to give him any space.
5. You want him to be your slave.

I don't think she wants these 5 things.

[Mav D]

Originally Posted by Unregistered

I am in a long-distance relationship with my boyfriend. It been 4 months since we have seen each other. I generally call him everyday and we talk to good amount. Sometimes we fight and one of us hangs-up, so the other one call. But sometimes When we have a fight my boyfriend never call back..so I fear that I will lose him and generally call him back, he does apologizes. Some times i try to stop calling him fro few days but i generally give in and end up call him .One of the things that really bothers me is the facts when he says he will call and never calls, he just says it did nt have enought money in his phone to make a long distace call.I call him everyday. Now he way away on a trip for 4 days and told me to call on the fifth day..should I call him bk immediately on 5th day or make him wait n realized my imporrtance..how long should i wait? It it normal that boyfriend calls less often? I really love him a lot and He say he loves me. I dont wanna break up with him so what should i do. Can someone help me on this topic.....

i'm in a long distance relationship now and it will last for another 2 years, i have been in a relationship earlier which primarily borke down due to the problems of maintaining a long distance relationship ( i was immature then... or so i would like to think)
you have to bear your own mental condition and those of your partner... all the frustration and lonliness and anger, angusih and frustration.
don't worry too much if he doesn't call... i love my wife but i don't like to call her everey day, although we talk once or twice a day.
give space and get some space for yourself... keep yourself busy and time will pass...
BEST OF LUCK

[dj_ron]

Originally Posted by sb_fan2

You are calling him again and again - many reasons.

1. You want to spoil his life.
2. You cannot digest he is happy.
3. You dont trust him.
4. You dont want to give him any space.
5. You want him to be your slave.

My advice is - atleast in distant relationship - give him space, freedom and independence. He will call you when he can. Without trust distant relation - is not possible.

Stop imposing yourself.

HAAHAHAHA tipical gf woes []



btw if u luv him so much take permissions from ur parents and pack ur bags and go to him. Guys always need sumone to be around. Otherwise 'is duniya me bahut larkiya hai' - aisa attitude chala aata hai.

And one more thing, dont be insecure, its creates a lot of problems, Give space. have a big heart.

[atiqsyedpk]

follow tthe advoices

[tanzil007]

Keep patience. If he is the right person for u created bt Allah, then he will call u back.